The Radical Act of being loyal to who you are
Understand Why You Are the Way You Are
PATTERN DETECTIVE™
Understand Why You Are the Way You Are Today
Most individuals seeking help feel and know that something is off but can't figure out what or why.
The DEFEND™ Framework reveals your brilliant protection patterns and shows you how to evolve them into more conscious choices in your relationships and career; the ultimate act of self-loyalty.
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Map your unique protection patterns in 30 questions
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Start understanding the origins of your automatic responses
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Get a personalized roadmap to ignite authentic transformation
The Cost of Being Disloyal to Your True Self
✓ You're successful but feel something is off; like you're performing someone else's version of success
✓ You know your behavior, life choices, patterns aren't serving you but can't stop the automatic responses
✓ You're tired of adapting yourself to fit what others expect
✓ Traditional approaches miss the deeper question: "Who am I beneath all these adaptations and how do I find the path or courage to become more "me"?"
✓ You're ready to look at your life holistically, do the deep work and honor your authentic self instead of managing symptoms with band-aid (quick) fixes
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You aren't broken, you're brilliant. You learned exactly what is needed to survive. Now it's time to evolve those patterns in service of who you really are.
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The DEFEND™ Framework
Six Protection Patterns That Reveal Your True Self Beneath Life's Adaptations. Your pattern combination (usually 2-3 leading ones) creates your unique 'psychological fingerprint' the automatic way you navigate challenges and relationships.
We will illuminate the whole picture of your unique life experiences through multiple lenses, ensuring you feel truly seen, understood and validated before transformation begins. It's ignition to change at the root.
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From Pattern Recognition to Conscious Choice, a 3-Step Process:
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Assessment - Identify your protection patterns through a self-assessment (1-1.5h completion)
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Understanding - Get your personalized report and explore your unique psychological blueprint (2 hours with me)
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Evolution - Choose 1:1 coaching or resources for transformation (1h coaching session)
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Before diving in you can get a free glimpse of the DEFEND potential by completing the free DEFEND-light assessment and get your personalized report from me within 1 business day.
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Step 1: ASSESSMENT
Your Engrained Protection Patterns
Using the DEFEND™ framework, we identify the strategies you learned to stay safe, loved, or successful. This is your unique blueprint we'll work with.
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Self-Assessment, Profiling
Step 2: UNDERSTAND
Your Nervous System, Thoughts, Assumptions, Beliefs
Move from automatic reactions to conscious knowledge and responses. Your body holds the map home to yourself, we'll work on igniting this through various analytical and somatic modalities.
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Education & Validation
Step 3: EVOLUTION
The REAL one: more aware, less shame, fear, sadness & confusion
Practice radical self-loyalty. Live from your values, boundaries, and desires; not others' expectations. Ignite from within and shine the REAL you outwards.
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Coaching & Personalized Roadmap
Introduction
Founder: Eva van Rhee
Hi, I'm Eva - MSc. Psychology (2011), trauma-informed coach (2022), graduate from Stanford GSB (2021), with 15 years of experience in academics, family-owned and corporate enterprises. Also, 40+ years of experience masking my true self.
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Why I Created DEFEND™: Throughout my own self-development journey and my career working with neurodivergent professionals, high-achievers, and corporate leaders, I noticed something troubling: individuals were getting help in silos. ADHD coaching here, trauma therapy there, executive coaching over here - but nobody was really looking at how it all connected. The same was true for the 10+ additional educations I completed to trauma healing. Offering quick fixes, solving silo'ed issues for temporary success. DEFEND connects this end-to-end, honest, without fluff and demystifying the world of "healing"!​
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My expertise and special interests currently span:
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Toxic relationships and leadership environments and how they create protective adaptations that become automatic
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Trauma-informed coaching that honors why we learned to adapt in the first place
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Neurodivergence (ADHD, autism, giftedness) and the masking patterns that hide our true selves
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Corporate survival strategies for sensitive nervous systems in demanding environments
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Academic and professional achievement patterns that prioritize performance over authenticity
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My approach isn't about "becoming authentic" - it's about stopping the exhausting performance of who you think you should be and starting the practice of who you actually are. Messy bits included!
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Featured in Vogue Leaders • Keynote speaker to 7,000+ • Creator of the DEFEND™ methodology
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P.S. - I still cannot fold away my laundry, organize my Skittles by color, eat my favorite part of the meal last, and rehearse "casual" conversations in my head. Some things never change, and that's perfectly self-loyal too!
Contact me
To schedule your DEFENDâ„¢ Assessment or in case of any questions, contact me by completing the form below.